Loved and Lost or Never Loved at All?

Here is the question. Is it better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all? This is something we wrestled with when we started to do foster care. Everyone told us the research shows that if you can get a child to attach to one person then they will be able to attach to another person too. Seems easy enough right? The problem is in order for them to attach you have to too. And then you just feel guilty when they have to leave and you start wondering;

-          Who will rock her to sleep in the hammock ever night?

-          Who get him water, when he says in the cutest voice “Mommy, wader please?”

-          Who will lay down with them to have a nap so that they will fall asleep?

-          Who will get them the medical care they need?

-          Who will given them kisses when they pucker their little lips?

-          And who will hold them when they cry?

The good thing with these two is that I know someone will someday. And for one of them I know that some of their needs will be met in the mean time. Unfortunately that child just needs more than can be given in a orphanage setting. For both I pray for a quick adoption process. And I pray that the love we could give them in the mean time will be enough to carry them through some rough days ahead. 

Velo, playing the part of Batman on his scooter. 

"Fiona" stealing bites of cookie dough when I turn my back.